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A DOSE OF REALITY Personal

October 11, 2016

I‘m going to share a little bit of my heart today, for 2 reasons.  First, I think it ‘s important for you to really know parts of me- not just what I do but who I am! And second, because I have always believed that if you don’t say your dreams…out loud…than it is nearly impossible for them to come true.

We are at sort of an interesting spot right now with this business.  I say we because even though it really is mostly me, there is definitely a team of people that are quite involved in every part, and also in every result.  JGP has grown faster and more than we ever pictured, and we are immensely grateful.  Michael and I talk frequently about what this business looks like as our kids get older, with us as wedding photographers. It has been easy for me to give up 20 Saturdays a year to this point because I get so much week time with my kids.  It has always been a bigger sacrifice for Michael, who works during the week, which is why he only shoots about 60% of my weddings with me, so he still gets plenty of weekend with the kids.  But we both recognize as they get older and start school full time, losing Saturday time with them, even less than half the Saturdays of the year, is a big sacrifice.  What about when they have activities?  We love photographing weddings.  Together.  We absolutely love it.  But I don’t think either of us are crazy about missing Saturday morning soccer games, missing our memories, to capture others.  So we are weighing all of those pieces.  We are hoping that in a couple years when our kids are in school full time, we can step back to closer to 15 weddings (but we love our pace for now!). We are looking at whether both of us photographing is the best option for our kids, and how all of that will come together.

But one of the solutions that we have found, for me? Friday weddings.  I would love to photograph more Friday weddings.  We got married on a Sunday, and I know non-Saturday weddings happen.  Most photographers love to photograph them because it means they can photograph twice (or even 3 times!) in one weekend. While I do have one double header weekend (as they are called!) next year, in general those are not something I plan to do much of because I don’t want to lose 2 long days in a row with my kids. However, I want to shoot Friday weddings because it means that I can have Saturdays at home with my kids!!  If I could photograph 10 Friday weddings a year, I could keep my full wedding schedule and only miss 10 Saturdays. Out of 52, those are pretty good numbers!  As a business practice, I don’t really offer discounts on wedding coverage because I feel like it is unfair to discount in certain situations and not others, and impossible to decide when to and not to.  It is important to me that the investment of the Jill Gum Wedding Experience is exactly what it’s worth- so discounting in the winter season, or making a new price for each person says to me that it isn’t worth the value it is set at, and I know the experience I am giving my couples is more than worth it’s value.  That being said, because I believe Friday weddings are an important part of the future of my business for my family, I am going to begin offering a lower Friday investement to brides who book in 2017.  And I know a part of people booking Friday weddings is knowing about them, and knowing about the benefits.  So I am going to begin a little series sharing about those as well soon! But in the mean time…if you get engaged soon or have a newly engaged friend, consider this option for you!  I am excited about the possible future this can bring my wedding business that at this point holds some uncertainty and worry.

Friends, if you have any ideas or even just encouragement about how a Saturday-based job can work once the kids are in school, please leave it for me. If you are a photographer with older kids and are navigating this, I could use your encouragement and thoughts.  We worry that we are working entirely hard on something that we won’t find possible in the future- and that is scary to us.  As is the vulnerability of writing this post.  Thanks so much for reading, and being along for the journey! I appreciate you all.

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Comments

  1. Candi

    October 11th, 2016 at 8:53 am

    I totally feel you! My kids are pretty spread out in age. We struggle with this a bit, but I actually enjoy double header weekends because I can knock out two at one weekend and free up another completely! I shoot about 15 a year and that is a good number for me. My kids have a lot of weekday activities (Boy Scouts, baseball, etc) so I am not missing a lot on Saturdays yet. we just try to make up for those days on sundays and make the most of my off season! We do family stuff in the colder months- like a trip to great wolf lodge when my season ends! My kids love it!!

  2. Ashley Durham

    October 11th, 2016 at 9:09 am

    It’s really hard being a wedding photographer with school aged kids. We try to take one weekend day off a week – so any double headers we have is on a Friday + Saturday, and we will have Sunday’s off.

  3. Jill

    October 12th, 2016 at 5:39 pm

    Love this tip- thanks Ashley!

  4. Amber

    October 11th, 2016 at 12:47 pm

    Thanks for sharing! Giving up Saturdays is definitely a challenge with a family!

  5. Jill

    October 12th, 2016 at 5:39 pm

    It really is! Why didn’t I do this BEFORE kids when I could make my weekends Sunday Monday?! But then again…I know that no matter WHAT is on your schedule, there is a sacrifice- if your family and friends work the rest of the week, you will always lose something without Saturdays free!

  6. Lydia

    October 11th, 2016 at 3:56 pm

    Good luck!!!! Friday weddings would be awesome!

  7. Jill

    October 12th, 2016 at 5:38 pm

    Thanks Lydia!!

  8. Misty

    October 11th, 2016 at 4:01 pm

    YES!!!! It is tough being a parent and a wedding photographer! I feel like there’s always sacrifice when it comes to kiddos!

  9. Jill

    October 12th, 2016 at 5:37 pm

    So so true!!!

  10. Mindy

    October 11th, 2016 at 6:58 pm

    Beautiful open post. My husband and I have 6 kids, and all though I know I wont be at every single game, there are alot of things I do get to do with them. Such as take them to the waterpark on a random weekday in the Summer, pick them up from school everyday, and tuck them in every night. You will always have / and find time for what you find important.

  11. Jill

    October 12th, 2016 at 5:37 pm

    I love this Mindy, thanks so much for sharing. There is MUCH I get with my kids because of this career that I wouldn’t otherwise- I just have to remind myself of what that is, and the MILLIONS of other ways wedding photography as a job has improved our lives!!

  12. Raelene Schulmeister

    October 12th, 2016 at 10:57 am

    Jill what an accomplishment to have your business grow so fast and so well. I have two school aged kiddos that have activities on weekends but my husband doesn’t work with me. I specifically leave at least one Saturday a month open to get to those activities. I know it’s not much, but my kids understand and are super excited and appreciative when I do get to go to their activities. Hang in there, it’ll get better!

  13. Jill

    October 12th, 2016 at 5:36 pm

    Raelene, thank you so much for this perspective! I love the idea of one Saturday a month- just to make SURE. I know there are so many other things I WILL get to do with my kids that I wouldn’t if I was going to continue in my first career (which involved lots of nights) even in exchange for those Saturdays- it just changes so much with every season!

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